I HATE to make apologies. It is not because I mind being wrong; I am used to that! I hate to apologize because it means I have hurt someone, or done something foolish, selfish, or ungodly. Still, apologizing and asking for forgiveness are vital to our relationships. It is also what Jesus wants us to do.
Last week was incredibly busy. My “to do list” included making my famous Chicken Chrisaladas to stick in the freezer for an upcoming gathering. Fresh flour tortillas, an important ingredient in the recipe, can usually be easily found. That day, however, it took several stops to locate them before I triumphantly headed for home. The filling was already mixed, the chicken was cooked, and the two cheeses were grated and ready to place on top. I had just enough time to assemble the recipe before a doctor’s appointment. Then, I discovered that my “fresh” tortillas had mold on them. In desperation, I cut out the black spots and decided to fry them anyway. Eventually thinking better of it, I threw them in the trash and headed out the door for my appointment.
Grabbing my phone, I proceeded to engage in a rant with my daughter as I drove. I recounted the entire story, complete with intense emotion and a curse word or two. It was utterly ridiculous. Yes, there were other pressures that were contributing to my frustrations, but I really had no excuse. I also discovered that I was on speaker phone, and that my son-in-law had walked in and heard the worst part! I hung up feeling righteously disgruntled but not a bit better. Suddenly I realized; my tirade hadn’t helped a thing.
So my apologies began.
“Jesus, please forgive me! That was not a reflection of You! Cursing and ranting about tortillas? Please help me to have a better perspective next time.”
I apologized to my daughter, the recipient of my verbal onslaught.
“Please forgive me for subjecting you to that. I can’t imagine that it improved your day. It was ungodly, self centered behavior. I will do my best not to do it again!”
My son-in-law wasn’t available to take my call. I left a message requesting time to speak to him, explaining that I needed to clear the air.
Jesus always forgives us when we bring our failures to Him. He sees our mistakes even when they are happening and still loves us anyway. His concern is that sin is harmful to us. He wants us to be free from bearing it’s weight. He doesn’t want sin to come between us and Him, or between ourselves and anyone else. It is good to know that when we confess our mistakes to Him, He chooses to remember them no more. We never ever have to be afraid to turn to Him.
Isaiah 43:25 KJV 25 I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins.
My daughter was very gracious. “Don’t give it a thought. No one is perfect. Everyone has that kind of day”.
Colossians 3:13 bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.
As for the innocent speaker phone victim? He offered to bring me a bottle of Febreeze if I still needed it to “clear the air”. Then he told me not to worry, “a box of red licorice will fix anything!”.
Proverbs 19:11 KJV The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.
As you can see, I have some amazing, grace filled people in my life who are excellent apology accepters! I am so very grateful for them! Others, however, are not always so quick to forgive. Even then, The Lord requires me to go to them, then to leave the result between He and them.
I don’t know about you, but I want to be quick to seek forgiveness, and to be just as quick to forgive! May I always begin at the feet of Jesus, for He is the One Who gives me the ability to do what He has asked me to do.
Philippians 4:13 KJV 13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Luke 6:37(NKJV Do Not Judge. 37 “Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.